Do you answer a reaction of anger with anger? Are you avoiding hostile people?
What can you learn from these situations?
What the books of wisdom say:
At the school of life we must undergo a period of practical training and it is hard to recognize who are the teachers and who are the pupils.
It doesn’t matter who teaches us – children, beggars and yes, even people that are hostile to us.
Why? Because they are the ones who push us to make the most effort.
It might be easy to react to slanders and attacks, but is that a good way of reacting?
If you retaliate without reflecting, you risk to sink to the same level of your attacker and get bogged down in the same mess.
It is not wrong to retaliate, as long as you are able to maintain the high ground and not join in your opponents pettiness. You might win, but you also lose a great deal.
You have to display much intelligence and strength of character if you are to stand firm and defend yourself without employing the same weapons as your opponents.
That is why our opponents are so useful for our evolution.
How I handle hostile people:
After I learned the above mentioned lesson, I learned to keep my cool whenever someone upsets me. By doing this I’ve understood that no one is physically attacking me. Only in my mind I was thinking that someone is attacking me, but when I started to observe and think before I spoke I learned that I was only seeing myself in such behavior in others. It was me that was attacking myself, the others were only expressing their situation in a common manner. For instance my self confidence could drop like a stone when someone spoke of their new smartphone or car. I only realized that the perception I was having on the situation was much different from what the other person was having. Now I am not giving the anger, sadness or stress the same focus that I would do before. I do not see other people as enemies, I see them as someone teaching me on how to evolve. Yes I could be angry for a long time but if I kept my cool and rethought the situation the outcome was always that I have learnt something about myself.
And I smile at my “enemies” whenever we meet next time.
How do you handle hostility?
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